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Lyn Riddle

On setting priorities, living in perspective

by Lyn Riddle

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Nov
15
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Ryan Fernandes and Caroline Sieger, who are getting married in December, asked guests to donate to Triune Mercy Center, where they developed a computer room.

To be honest, it was mostly junk.

Computers with parts missing or computers at least eight years old, which is like an athlete wearing a leather helmet in the Super Bowl.

The room held a few tables and some metal chairs and it was dark and dusty.

That’s what Ryan Fernandes and Caroline Sieger saw when they walked into a third floor room at Triune Mercy Center for the first time in the fall of 2009. They were Clemson grad students then, he in the business school, she in math. They had been dating about a year.

The Clemson MBA program matched Fernandes with Triune, the Rutherford Road ministry that offers services for the homeless.

“Clemson has a unique philanthropy view,” he said.

Fernandes met with Deb Richardson Moore, the pastor, and Pat Parker, the center’s associate director and employment specialist, and together they decided to take that dismal room and make it into a computer lab.

“There are cell phones faster than the computers in there,” Fernandes said. “We had to make the best of what we had.”

Their challenge was similar to a chef who is given disparate ingredients to cook something edible.

They took the oldest computers and reconfigured them for browsing the web only. They worked well enough for Triune clients to look for jobs.

They parlayed Clemson contacts into newer computers – or as Fernandes puts it “all in one machines” that could be used for typing lessons and classes in learning software such as Word or Excel.

But it didn’t end there. Fernandes and Sieger bought lighting from Ikea. His parents, Jackie and Agnelo Fernandes, who live in Greenville, donated a rug. And purple computer chairs came from the Clemson MBA program.

Fernandes and Sieger attended the first class taught there, which was in March. The clients described being able to have ready access to computers and the opportunity to take classes as life changing.

“Not knowing how to turn on a computer or have an e-mail address, I never realized how important it is,” Fernandes said. “The room serves as a safe place for them to learn without having to go to the library and be asked to leave because they fell asleep.”

Moore said so far 45 people have had one-on-one training.

“The key is that a lot of our folks have failed in other computer programs or other job-seeking programs where they’re shown to a computer and left on their own,” she said.

She said Triune offers a lot of emergency relief such as hot meals, groceries, clothes, blankets, coats and laundry services. But the computer room offers something lasting. It helps people get out of the situation they’re in.

For Fernandes, it was an opportunity to give back to the community he grew up in. He attended St. Joseph’s Catholic School, where is played soccer, and then majored in biochemistry at Clemson before getting his master’s in business. Sieger grew up in Charleston and has a bachelor’s and master’s in math.

They’re living in Boston now. She’s working for the Massachusetts Institute of Technology’s Lincoln Lab developing collision avoidance algorithms for the Air Force and the FAA, and he’s doing an internship Vertex Pharmaceuticals.

Fernandes said working together on the computer lab deepened their relationship. In April, he took her to the top of the Clemson House and asked her to marry him. Their wedding is planned for Dec. 29 at Divine Redeemer Catholic Church in Hanahan, outside of Charleston.

Their wedding registry is a short one.

They’ve asked all their guests to donate what they would have spent on a wedding present to Triune Mercy Center.

“Yeah, we need things for the household, but how much do you really need when you put things in context? Fernandes said.

Lyn Riddle

On paying it forward

by Lyn Riddle

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Jan
23

As the members of the Flock Sunday school class at First Presbyterian Church of Greenville left class they were given an envelope that said simply Merry Christmas.

Inside was a letter that began, “Please accept this gift from my wife and me as a dedication of love and duty to our Lord Jesus Christ.”

It went on to talk about hard times and how much they wanted others to share the blessings God had given them. The author, who did not reveal his name, hoped class members would use the gift themselves if needed, help another family, grant an impoverished child’s Christmas wish or support a missionary.

The envelope contained five $100 bills so crisp one member said they looked like they had just been printed. There were 50 envelopes, one for each couple. That amounted to $25,000 from someone who did not want to be thanked, did not want publicity. Just wanted to sit back and watch the magic unfold.

Denton Burnette, as coordinator of the gift giving, is one of the few people who knows the donor’s identity.

“They could have easily written a check for $25,000, but they wanted to get other people involved, to make it more personal,” he said.

And personal it has been. Some in the class, facing their own misery with lost jobs or other problems, paid bills or bought Christmas for their children. One woman took her child out for a Mexican dinner, the first time in a year they’d been able to eat out. And they even ordered queso sauce.

One gave money for dishes and clothes to a woman whose mobile home had burned down. Another gave the $500 to Safe Harbor, the shelter for abused women, and was able to get his company to not only match the amount but also to double it – $1,500 for a more than worthy organization.

An 11-year-old boy got a bicycle, helmet and Pittsburgh Steelers gym bag. An unemployed father was able to buy presents for his children.

Fifty times over and more. A gift. More often than not, parents said the exercise had a profound impact on their children, who played a big role in deciding where the money should go and in giving it out when the time came.

“We’re always telling children to do things,” said John Stelling. “I’m glad my children saw me doing something.”

Stelling’s wife Robin and daughter Carlisle bought $130 in groceries for a classmate’s family. Then he took $300 to Triune Mercy Center for three homeless families. He also gave up all the jackets and sweatshirts he had in his trunk from this promotional products company.

He put some money in the collection plate at church. And the last $10 he used to buy McDonald’s hamburgers for the people who live under the Pete Hollis Highway bridge. He and his daughter as well as a friend and his daughter went down there with a truckload of firewood they had cut and the bag of burgers.

There were four or five tents, a makeshift stand and a handful of people. One guy approached Stelling. They talked about their lives.

“He revealed his situation to me and that hit home,” Stelling said.

The man had been a classmate more than two decades before at Wade Hampton High School. They had algebra together.

“He was ahead of me intellectually and from an academic standpoint,” Stelling said.

On that December day, the economic divide could not have been greater. But as men, they met as equals beside that railroad bed, one reaching out to the other because someone else had reached out first.