Published: Sept. 18, 2009, 1:57 p.m.
A soldier’s story is most often written when he dies. We see in the clearest of terms the loss, the young life not lived fully, the sorrowful family.
But what of the soldier whose family simply worries?
The nights when sleep comes fitfully thinking of a son in Afghanistan, the call that comes long before sunup in which he describes seeing two children killed by a suicide bomber.
He says in a voice that sounds like he is right around the corner, “Afghans love their children just like we do.”
That is the world of the Penkert family of Greenville.
Their second son, Alex, an infantryman in the U.S. Army, has been in Afghanistan for two months. His older brother Eric is a third-year law student at Vanderbilt University. His younger sisters – Kaitlyn, 17, and Laura Paige, 14 – attend Greenville High.
Mom Evelyn works at First Presbyterian Church of Greenville and dad Rip is in business development with AMEC, an engineering firm.
Alex Penkert was a 20-year-old student at Greenville Technical College when he come home one day two years ago and told his mother he had decided to join the Army.
Rip Penkert was out of town on a business trip and remembers his wife, upset and crying, called with the news.
“I didn’t want to dissuade him from going in,” Penkert said. “We just thought he’d go as an officer.”
Father and son sat down in their Chanticleer home to talk. When it was over, it was the father who stood back in awe of the son who had volunteered to serve his country.
“I was convinced he was doing it for the right reason,” Penkert said. “He really wanted to serve.”
Alex Penkert completed basic training at Fort Benning and then received orders to go to Fort Lewis near Tacoma, Wash. The Army needed him to be a mortarman, 5th Stryker Brigade Combat Team 2nd Infantry Division.
The family knew he would go to war. Eventually. But when eventually came it was stunning nonetheless.
“It’s here.”
“It’s really happening.”
“His orders have been cut.”
Before deploying, he was given leave for his grandfather’s funeral and then in May and June, the standard two-week pre-deployment visit.
Life seemed so normal. All the children were home. Most nights Mrs. Penkert cooked supper and the six of them gathered around the kitchen table, its natural wood a reminder of the Sharpies used on so many school projects.
Sometimes he’d show Kaitlyn films of war – the real thing – the stuff he was headed for, soldiers pleading “Dear Jesus please keep me safe.”
She said, “Alex how can you watch this. Isn’t it scary?”
He said it helped him prepare.
“I can feel what he’s feeling,” Kaitlyn said. “It helps to understand.”
He and his dad talked about what would happen if the worst happened. They reviewed his will. They went over all the things the Army wanted them to consider.
On June 6, Rip and Kaitlyn Penkert took SPC Alex Penkert to Charlotte for the flight back to Washington State.
“I took one big breath of him and then he left,” Kaitlyn said.
First Presbyterian members sent 14 boxes of goodies ahead of the team and Kaitlyn has been packing a box and sending it over every week since – beef jerky and Pringles, trail mix and Gatorade powder – items she calls comfort food. Her brother had lost 15 pounds already.
“The food is gross,” Kaitlyn said.
She would like to send more and would accept donations from the community so her brother can be Santa Claus to the soldiers without family or without family who can send them packages.
Penkert was stationed first at Kandahar, then a more remote location and now an even more remote firebase in a high elevation. He is on his feet all day.
“We want him to have plenty of calories,” his dad said.
Alex calls home about once a week, usually between 1:30 a.m. and 4:30 a.m., which is late morning there. The Penkerts don’t mind. It means everyone is home when he calls.
He has told them he’s been shot at. Almost two weeks ago he told about a cleancut teen on a scooter at a bazaar. The teen pushed something on his wrist, detonating a bomb that ripped his body apart and killed the translator for Alex’s unit and two Afghan children. The lieutenant was hit in the chest and some soldiers were wounded but none died.
Alex was about 25 feet away when he saw a grief-stricken Afghan kick the terrorist’s severed head like a football.
It was tough to hear, but Rip Penkert said he’s glad his son can talk about it. Perhaps the non-physical wounds he brings back will heal or at least not be so deep.
“I am really proud of him,” Penkert said. “I believe in his mission.”
Contact Lyn Riddle at lriddle@greenvillejournal.com or 679-1250.
To donate items for the members of Alex’s unit, call 235-5940.